There is a big difference between “besting” yourself and “beating” yourself, is how to find the way to grow yourself and killing yourself.

It’s look like something insane practise self compassion finding yourself by sufference but besting yoursel means gain the best side of you and nothing is better than find you when you are in the deepest of troubles and you find the energy to move forward. That’s is my way and I know that mybe is judget as the wrong way, Does not exit the nice o wrong way to face life and fears, There are many ways but you have to find your own way to act in life and react at obstacles, fears or something that you could not control.

Taking a moment to practice self-compassion and learning to accept yourself can be a critical step to stopping beating yourself up. While it’s common to be our own worst critic, internal criticism can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and depression. However, there are steps you can take to stop beating yourself up for past mistakes.

As humans, we tend to be very hard on ourselves. We push ourselves to do better, be better and achieve more. Though this is often seen as good, it can become problematic when we start beating ourselves up for not meeting these self-imposed expectations. This type of negative self-talk can damage our long-term mental and physical health, hold us back from achieving our goals, and cause depression.

Reasons why you keep beating yourself up may include:

  • You made a mistake in the past: It’s natural for humans to make mistakes – but sometimes those mistakes can haunt you for years, causing overwhelming guilt, shame, and self-blame. The worst part is that despite your best efforts to move on, your mind replays the incident repeatedly, leaving you feeling trapped and helpless.
  • You stress about the little things: When you are overwhelmed, it’s easy to feel stressed out about the little things. However, worrying about insignificant things can lead to irrational concerns, anxiety, or depression.
  • Fear of failure: While failure is an inevitable part of life, you may be afraid to fail and don’t know how to stop beating yourself up. While a certain degree of concern is natural, excessive fear of failure can lead to feelings of anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem.
  • Past trauma: Trauma is an experience that can leave an indelible mark on your psyche and can significantly impact your self-perception and thought processes. Research shows that trauma may significantly impact somebody’s sense of self.
  • Comparison: In today’s social media-driven world, it can be easy to compare yourself to others. This comparison game can damage your self-esteem and lead to negative self-talk.
  • Perfectionism: As humans, we often set unrealistic expectations for ourselves, striving for perfect grades, the perfect job, the perfect relationship, or the perfect body. When you don’t meet these high standards, you can become overly critical of yourself and can’t stop beating yourself up. A study shows that perfectionism accounts for increases in symptoms of depression and anxiety.
  • People pleasing: While it’s important to be kind and considerate to others, constantly catering to other people’s needs without considering your own can lead to negative consequences. One of these consequences is negative self-talk, which can have a significant impact on one’s mental health and well-being.
  • Overthinking: When overthinking becomes a habit, it negatively affects mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. Overthinking can fuel negative self-talk by keeping you trapped in a cycle of rumination, self-doubt, and anxiety.


1.   Don’t Be Afraid of Failure

2.   Practice Self-Compassion & Acceptance

3. Focus on Healing Your Inner Child

4. Practice Meditation

5. Use Thought Stopping Techniques

6. Reframe Negative Thoughts

7. Be Mindful

8. Accept Your Imperfections and Flaws

9. Forgive Yourself

10. Take Responsibility for Past Mistakes

Live the present, understand that what is uppened in the past could not drive your present and hightlight your future, rule yourself, don’t be trapped in other opinios, take a full responsibility of your life, trust in something but trust firs in yourself, don’t find the easy way because all are able to stay in yourown comfort zone, accept who you are and find your why, understand that this worl is too dangerous if you want walk alone and the only way to turn the hard things easy is  supporting others and ask help when you are spiritually spent, fisically spent, mentally spent. Practise the umility lesson to ask help and you will find that in the world there are many person that will find the way to support you and love you even if they are facing maybe hardest problems than yours.

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