A positive attitude is never automatic. You have to work at it! Here’s how to become a master of the mind. A positive attitude–optimism, expectancy, and enthusiasm–makes everything in business, sport and life easier. A positive attitude boosts you up when you’re down and supercharges you when you’re already “on a roll.”
- Remember that YOU control your attitude.
Attitude does not emerge from what happens to you, but instead from how you decide to interpret what happens to you. Take, for example, receiving the unexpected gift of an old automobile. One person might think: “It’s a piece of shit!” a second might think: “It’s cheap transportation,” and a third might think: “It’s a real classic!” In each case, the person is deciding how to interpret the event and therefore controlling how he or she feels about it (i.e. attitude). A defeat in the game or race can be justified with an amount of EXCUSES or it can be a moment of growth and improvement.
- Adopt beliefs that frame events in a positive way.
Your beliefs and rules about life and work determine how you interpret events and therefore your attitude. Decide to adopt “strong” beliefs that create a good attitude rather than beliefs that create a bad attitude. Rule yourself !! We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort. Individual sports however require self-motivation, initiative, and discipline to succeed. Most of the time practice involves working on skills that are weak, not doing the things you’re already good at. It’s not fun to spend hour after hour doing something you suck at (which of course is subjective, but even accomplished players have certain issues that are uncomfortable to work on) or intentionally playing in windy or raining conditions to become more experienced in those situations. To use sales as an example:
- Situation: The first sales call of the day goes poorly.
- Weak: A lousy first call means that I’m off my game and today will suck.
- Strong: Every sales call is different, so the next will probably be better.
- Situation: A customer reduces the amount of an order at the last minute!
- Weak: Customers who change orders can’t be trusted.
- Strong: Customers who change orders are more likely to be satisfied!
- Situation: A big sales win comes seemingly “out of nowhere.”
- Weak: Even a blind pig finds an acorn once in a while.
- Strong: You never know when something wonderful will happen!
- Create a “library” of positive thoughts.
Spend at least 15 minutes every morning to read, view, or listen to something inspirational or motivational, try to inspire or energize People around you !!! If you do this regularly, you’ll have those thoughts and feelings ready at hand (or rather, ready to mind) when events don’t go exactly the way you’d prefer.
- Avoid angry or negative media.
Unfortunately, the media is full of badly news, paranoid, unhappy and frightened people. The resulting flood of negativity should not to destroy your ability to maintain a positive attitude.
- Ignore whiners, complainers and naysayers.
Whiners, complainers and naysayers see the world through crap-colored glasses. They’d rather talk about what’s irreparably wrong, rather than make things better. More importantly, complainers can’t bear to see somebody else happy and satisfied.If you tell a complainer about a success that you’ve experienced, they’ll congratulate them, but their words ring hollow. You can sense they’d just as soon you told them about what’s making you miserable.
Don’t think that just because you made it to the next level that the haters and naysayers disappear. Remember, new levels bring new devils
- Use a more positive vocabulary.
The words that come out of your mouth aren’t just a reflection of what’s in your brain–they’re programming your brain how to think. Therefore, if you want to have a positive attitude, your vocabulary must be consistently positive. Therefore:
- Stop using negative phrases such as “I can’t,” “It’s impossible,” or “This won’t work.” These statements program you for negative results.
- Whenever anyone asks “How are you?” rather than “Hangin’ in there,” or “Okay, I guess…” respond with “Terrific!” or “Never felt better!” And mean it.
- When you’re feeling angry or upset, substitute neutral words for emotionally loaded ones. Rather than saying “I’m enraged!” say “I’m a bit annoyed…”