Three Rules for Self-Esteem

Three Rules for Self-Esteem

Three Rules for Self-Esteem


1.    Do what’s right.

Your self-esteem grows when you know in your heart what is right and DO it, and what is your WHY?.  This first rule is not real complicated. Do what’s right. Don’t do what’s wrong. Do what you have to do !!! It doesn’t matter if you call it business ethics or personal morals, you’ve got to do what is right. There is no way you can feel good about yourself if you do what you know is wrong. It’s a simple rule … even though it may not always be an easy rule. As the saying goes, “Opportunity may knock once, but temptation bangs on your front door forever.” So choose your ACTION wisely.

2.    Do the best you can.

Don’t accept anything less than the best from yourself. Like rule #1, there is no way you can feel good about yourself if you do just enough to get by or turn in work that is barely good enough to meet the expectations and standards of your industry. You’ve got to do the best you can. When you do that, you reap all the benefits of peace, joy, and self-esteem. Worry only about the things that are in your control, the things that can be influenced and changed by your actions, not about the things that are beyond your capacity to direct or alter. Treasure Friendship, the reciprocal attachment that fills the need for affiliation. Friendship cannot be acquired in the market place, but must be nurtured and treasured in relations imbued with trust and amity. Keep your life simple. Seek calming pleasures that contribute to peace of mind. True pleasure is disciplined and restrained. Master Yourself. Resist any external force that might delimit thought and action; stop deceiving yourself, believing only what is your WHY?. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. You’ve got to find what you love. Be a Responsible Human Being.

3.    Treat other people the way you’d like to be treated.

It may sound as old-fashioned as the Golden Rule, but you show me a person who treats others badly, and I’ll show you an insecure person with poor self-esteem. You cannot treat anybody … and I do mean anybody … badly and feel good about yourself.

BENEFIT #1: You gain the trust of others.

When you follow rule #1 … doing what’s right … others know they can trust you. In fact, there’s really no way others can trust you if you don’t do what’s right.

BENEFIT #2: You gain the respect of others.

When you follow rule #2 … doing your best … others automatically respect you. But if you goof off or try to take short cuts on quality, their respect goes out the window. On the flip side, if you’re a leader, you’ve got to expect and accept nothing less than the best from others if you ever hope to have their respect. Think about it.

BENEFIT #3: You gain the affection of others.

When you follow rule #3 … treating others the way you’d like to be treated … others like you. It’s almost impossible to dislike someone who genuinely likes you, cares about you, and treats you well.

Intense positive behaviors produce actions; the actions produce results

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